Stop Wearing the Wrong Lingerie
Attention ladies …. Please stop wearing the wrong lingerie!
I have sat with a group of women on more than one occasion, and always to my surprise, someone says, “My husband doesn’t like lingerie” or “I don’t know what to wear.”
Well, that ends today, and it ends with me telling you that you’re wrong.
Let’s start here: “My husband doesn’t like lingerie.”
Most likely, that’s not true. What is true, is that he doesn’t like the lingerie you’re buying, or he doesn’t like your attitude about wearing it, or he doesn’t like begging you to wear it. Men are primal, instinctual animals that react to visual stimulation MORE than any other sense. Covering up your body with loose, unstructured lingerie, breeds insecurity and lack of interest. The only message you’re sending is that you don’t want to have hot sex, or an amazing emotional and physical connection that provides endless orgasms, leaving you wanting more. All you’ll get is your husband trying to muster an appropriate response to your lackluster attempt to sexually satisfy his needs and your own.
What’s truly ironic about this, is that if at this very moment, you and your husband split and you were back on the dating market, you would probably be wearing anything and everything sexy to gain a man’s interest. You would pull out all the stops … high heels, tight dresses, sexy jeans, high ponytails, etc. So, why not now? Why not for the man you chose to spend your life with? What changed?
Well, it turns out that we know the answers to all these questions … you got comfortable, and instead of focusing on your love and relationship, you made time for everything else. Now, you’re here. So let’s be honest and understand that every piece of lingerie says something extremely powerful. It’s not just your body, it’s your confidence, your sex appeal, your interest and most importantly, your passion for your man. Your mental and physical longing to be near him, touch him and please him.
And it’s not just about him, it’s about you. It’s about having your needs met. It’s about wearing something that makes you feel like a goddess. That puts you in total control of the night, as he begs at your feet. Lingerie has that power, so why on Earth would we ever give that up? Certainly, we can find the time to rock his world and leave him breathless.
"I don’t know what to wear.”
For the sake of this, I’ll assume you’ve worn lingerie at some point, but I get it – now you’re older, maybe you’ve had kids, things have changed. All of that is normal, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find your way back to the hottest lingerie on the planet.
This is where women make mistakes. It’s not just about picking out any old piece of lingerie and checking the box that you completed the task. Selecting lingerie is about setting the mood, playing a part and picking a scene for the night (or morning). Yes, lingerie can be worn anytime. No need to live in a box or set rules for your sex life. Besides, breaking every outdated rule is the best part.
There are some specific guidelines for choosing the perfect sex tease and using it properly, so if you’re a little rusty, we’re at your service.
Think about your man and your moment.
Like I said, lingerie is about setting the scene, so don’t shop blindly. If you haven’t done this in a while, think it through. Think about the mood you’re in and what you’re hoping for at your most intimate moment. Do you want wild sex, or just a naughty tease … do you want him to lust and lose control, or is it for play this round? Every piece of lingerie has a story to be told. Fit it into your story, just as you want it to be.
Try it on ahead of time.
There is not a woman out there who wants to plan and build sexual tension, just to hate the lingerie they put on. Do yourself a favor and try it on ahead of time. It takes about 5 minutes and trust me; you'll be glad you did. Whatever you're going for, you want to feel sexy and certain that your look nails it. The more confident you are, the more you’ll play, tease, and have sex like an animal.
Play with shapes and colors.
When it comes to lingerie, there is about every shape and color you can imagine. Go for short and slutty, then full body suit, then nipple cut-outs – next, try a two-piece, then lace, then leather. You get the idea. Play with who you are. Tease him in one form of lingerie and have sex in another. (Check out our pics for the ultimate Dos and Don’ts for lingerie)
Tight lingerie reigns above all.
There is no such thing as “flowy lingerie.” Sorry ladies, that’s just not lingerie. It must be tight, show curves, give a nip-slip, show an ass cheek, hug your breasts, show-off your waist – it must do it all. If you're wearing flow lingerie, please stop. Please stop putting your husband through it. Get back in the game and show your man how much you want to him.
If you’ve never worn it before (or even considered it), BUY IT!
Lingerie is fun and exciting. Don’t box it in or make it feel awkward. Wear it all and explore together. I have been shocked by so many types of lingerie that I never thought I’d like. But if it fits great, I go for it. Once it’s on, I’m ready to be his dirtiest slut. I want him to know he’s the only man for me and every inch of my body is his to discover.
Use lingerie outside the bedroom.
Find a reason to wear lingerie everywhere. When you’re going to dinner with your man, or the movies, or just cuddling by the fireplace, there are a million opportunities to make him want you that aren’t in the bedroom. Lingerie is just as much about the tease as it is the sex, so explore wearing the tiniest thong under your skirt, so he can feel your bare butt when he hugs you. Or wear that amazing lace push-up bra under your sweatshirt, so when he’s least expecting it, he can see your nipple overflowing at the top.
Leave lingerie on during sex.
Clothed sex is one of the hottest things you can experience. Stop thinking you need to be completely nude to have the best sex of your life. Playing with clothes being on and off is half the fun. Take off part of the lingerie or leave it all on and make your man work around it. Trust me … he’ll put in the work, and it will be the biggest turn-on of your life.
Buy lingerie every month.
Lingerie should not be a one-time, special occasion purchase. Lingerie should be enjoyed all year long. Put it in your budget and make it a priority. The more you do, the more you’ll enjoy it and stay excited about it. And your man will surely notice. Not to mention, he’ll start participating in those purchases, making it even more fun. The goal here is to keep your sex life hot; keep energizing it with erotic lingerie and experiences. Ensure that your spark continues to be reignited through mental and physical connection. Fresh lingerie is an excellent gateway.
Display your lingerie.
Nothing is worse than buying amazing lingerie and then not being able to see what you have. I can personally attest to this. It is frustration beyond belief. And the worst part is that you just stop using it because it’s not noticeable. Lingerie shouldn’t be thrown into a drawer or piled on a shelf. It should be displayed prominently, so you can think of it often and use it regularly.
Mix and match.
Once you have a rack full of lingerie, mix and match the pieces. It’s amazing to see how much more you can do with different parts. You can create more settings and more ways to make your man drool. Get creative and put things together that you never typically would. Put the tight t-shirt with the skimpy thong and hot pink leg warmers. Or try the crotchless leather pants with nothing but a body chain that shapes your nipples.
Go crotchless.
There is a lot to explore when it comes to crotchless wear. The options are endless. Whether you want vaginal sex, anal sex, or an anal plug – crotchless body suits, panties and tights are certain to add an extra element of raunchy fun.
Always wear high heels.
You may not be a fan of high heels for everyday wear, but believe me when I tell you that lingerie is 100 times sexier in high heels. The shoes will only be on for a moment, so don’t think about it. It’s going to be pure pleasure as soon as your husband sees you. I guarantee he’ll have you on your knees or on your back in no time.
Tear it.
Lingerie is intended to be dirty, so let loose. Buy some cheap pieces so you can tear everything. Let cum drip on your lingerie, or play with candle wax, or tear it into a new look. Anything you want is fair game.
Now go shopping, and find out just how right we are. You can be anything in lingerie. Enjoy the exploration.