4 Reasons Seduction is Your Best Friend
What is Seduction?
The art of seduction is a romantic mind game played between two people during the initial stages of a relationship. In most cases, it is the female who is the seducer; the other individual may be someone she is interested in and/or finds sexy and attractive. But there are no rules here, either partner can pursue and activate a kind of seduction worthy of the other's attention. During this phase of the relationship, life is full of excitement, surprises, lust, eroticism, romance, and laughter. In addition, the pace of life is fast and exciting. There is a romantic relationship, affection, candlelight dinners, exotic vacations, and lots of sex.
But the stages of a relationship change over time. Data reveals that once couples enter the third month of their relationship, the excitement and exhilaration fades; the reality is that the relationship reaches a status quo. Which means, unfortunately, seduction is often a short-term play. Couples go to work, come home, have dinner, watch television, and go to sleep - sometimes in separate bedrooms. Sex, if it happens, occurs once every 1-2 weeks, and even then, often only lasts for 15 minutes. The fact is, this is the new normal for most people when it comes to intimacy and sex. The fairytale romance that occurred a few months ago is completely forgotten, but it doesn’t have to be.
This is a time to recognize the importance of seduction and how it can breathe new life into your relationship ... it's time for men to become Casanova once again; and women to reprise the role of head seductress. These roles are what will fuel the passion within a couple, add exciting moments, and remind each other that time should strengthen the love and sex, not diminish it. Seduction is perhaps one of the easiest things to implement in your relationship and it provides instant return on your time investment. And luckily, seduction is just like riding a bike ... you never forget it, muscle memory kicks in just when you need it most.
Let's look at what happens as relationships progress and then focus on how you can use seduction to double down on sexual fun.
The Romantic Decline
There are many reasons why both men and women in a long-term relationship experience a decline in their sexual appetite. This includes stress, over-familiarity with the same partner, taking each other for granted, having other daily responsibilities, natural change in hormonal levels, work, children, and so on. And of course, this does not bode well with either partner- frustration, anger, and irritability may set in and then both partners prefer to be alone. Even when they have rare sex, the relationship continues the path of decline. Surveys indicate that couples who have sex 1-2 times a week do not report more happiness and those who have sex less than once a week report being less fulfilled- the missing link in this equation is that both romance and seduction have evaporated.
Just like one needs air to breathe, a couple needs romance and seduction to ensure that the relationship thrives. The problem is not with the 'genitals' but the lack of brain nurturing. Understanding how to use seduction can change the trajectory of your relationship and help connect your mind and body.
It is the recognition of lost connection that can help you determine the best direction moving forward. Like anything, admittance is the first step, and typically the most difficult. But you are here because you already know how important seduction is and it seems, you're game to get the engine fired up again. We talk a lot about boredom in relationships, or pure exhaustion, and that is because it's crucial to understand how to rebuild. The importance of seduction should not be downplayed. After all, it’s the reason you ever had hot sex to begin with. You may not have known at the time, or maybe you still haven't caught on, but the little thing we call 'seduction' has been guilty for more than you realize.
The Seduction Myth
A long-term relationship does not have to be ‘dry as dust’ and ‘featureless.’ Today there is a myth of gigantic proportions among many people who believe that seduction is only an option during the initial stages of a relationship; the fact of the matter is that the importance of seduction and the value of its effects never waver. Seduction can be used at any time in a relationship because it brings back the romance, desire, and affection that once was, including the torrid sex. Learning how to use seduction helps fulfill the ‘love portion’ of your brain and its benefits go way beyond the bedroom; it can form an intense bond between couples, leading to a healthy, trusting relationship.
And we won't lie ... seduction certainly has its naughty sides, in fact it has its devilish sides, but OTN knows the importance of bringing out the devil every now and then. Desperate times call for desperate measures, and while seduction isn't a desperate measure, it is a clear notion that attention, passion, and connection are necessary. So, pay attention - we're about to explain to you how to apply the art of seduction, how to use body language, and how to create human behavior that is so commanding, your partner could never resist.
How seduction will become your BFF
Seduction has been known to break a few hearts, make men grovel, and empower the V. Likewise, when men use seduction, the results are just as powerful. How? ... let me explain.
Experts in sexual behavior indicate that using seduction can help revive the passion in your partner and strengthen the emotional connection. Seduction can increase the desire for each other and the longing feeling of being with that person. Romance and seduction are not only important at the beginning of a relationship but vital for sustaining the emotional support and bond needed to increase self-esteem and power as a couple. Without romance and seduction, even having sex twice a day will not be enough to sustain a long-term relationship. A long-term relationship needs a robust combo of seduction and sexual connection. The chemicals released in the brain during seduction and tempting body language can enhance the bond and make the process of love more gratifying.
The importance of seduction exists mentally and physically. Seduction that leads to physical intimacy may involve kissing, cuddling, eye contact, sharing of sexual fantasies, and/or manual stimulation; all of which are important in the bonding process. Seduction provides an intimate connection that allows you both to explore sexual desires together, putting you in the mood for new methods of stimulation, or new experiences. This is what feeds the physical side that we all so desperately need. It's also what keeps you coming back for more and exposing yourself to new opportunities for pleasure.
Frequently the female will neglect to seduce her partner because she has lost her self-confidence, she does not feel great about herself, or she no longer feels sexy. The lesson here is that understanding how to use seduction is a two-way street; it not only arouses and increases your partner’s desire for you, but it also makes you feel wanted, sexy, and boost your self-confidence.
Because of the sexual energy that is created, seduction will come into your life and never leave; that is, unless you forget about it.
There's a reason why seduction is your best friend (but you might not know it yet)
Simply put ...
Easy implementation - There is nothing easier than dressing seductive, talking slow, making eye contact, touching gently, teasing, flirting, etc. It's one of the most natural behaviors we have toward the person we love, so why the hell not use it?
Power is shockingly addictive - Whether you're male or female, you can't lie (and we won't sugarcoat it), power is addictive. Control, power, lust, love, passion ... all of these elements exist with seduction and there is pure adrenaline in the moments where you know you can control and manipulate. Have a little fun with it!
You can get what you want - Undoubtedly the biggest reason why seduction is your best friend, is because you get what you want. There's no doubt and you will unapologetically, get whatever it is you're after. Besides, you're seducing for a reason. It could be as simple as hotter sex, but maybe it's more complex. Maybe you're seducing to get a new car, just so you can have sex in the backseat. Whatever it is, the result you want will be there.
No bullish** - Own it. With seduction, you own it all. There's no gray area and no uncertainty. You cut through the crap and the small talk. You get down to business in a matter of minutes. You can make that last longer, or you can cut it short. Either way, no bullshi** is awesome.
Getting back to seduction
Typical human behavior shows that couples often become set in their routines or just lazy in a relationship, and this can be unhealthy as it can lead to frustration and boredom. If the partner feels neglected, he or she may start to cheat or explore other means of sexually fulfilling themselves. To bring the sexual desire and spark in the relationship, focus on the seduction process, as it permits reconnecting with your partner emotionally. Seduction helps the other partner know that you find him or her attractive and sexy. It is a way of communicating your feelings.
Seducing your partner is not that difficult. All you need to seduce the opposite sex is a little creativity; introduce an element of surprise, make it fun and sexy. But to start you will need to convert any low self-esteem into high self-confidence. You must feel comfortable with what you're doing to get your significant other to pay attention. Acting sexy and seductive can be a magnet but the place and time must be appropriate. Plus, it is important to understand that seducing someone just once is not going to help; you should learn how to be seductive regularly to sustain the relationship.
When you decide to seduce your partner, you may initially feel a little nervous and self-conscious but as you practice, you will develop more confidence. Gradually you will note that your partner will start to show an interest- now that you have him/her hooked, the trick is to improve your tactics.
Developing the techniques for how to use seduction is the first step, but it also requires a little upgrade every now and then. What may have worked in the past may not work tomorrow. You will always need to introduce the surprise element and think freely.
Have fun with seduction. Think about ways to connect, ways to have rabid sex, and never say a word beforehand. That's where seduction will empower even the weakest. It's your body language, your eye contact, and your self-confidence that will lock in your intent. Use your inner sexual desires to transform your outside. If you believe it, your partner will believe it. The art of seduction is almost like creating a spell and making your partner fall to you. That is exactly where you want to be.
Don’t underestimate the importance of seduction
If you want to seduce your partner, there is no need to buy a book or talk to a therapist- go with your primal instincts. You can quickly think about using sexual seduction, as it’s a natural element of a healthy relationship, and essential to long-lasting happiness. Learn to develop a seductive smile, use your eyes to transmit your sexual message to the other person, walk-in a lustful manner, become the seductress, and get his attention with a little flirtation. Then change the roles the opposite direction, so that he becomes the pursuer. Pass a cryptic message to your partner, that entices and intrigues.
For us, there are no rules of seduction, it's simply the game you make. Whether is fast and hard or slow and sultry, the seductive style is yours to craft. It's about you and your partner. What appeals to one, won't to another. Understand that it may take some time to have him/her giving in to your every need. But remember when it happens that power is so satisfying. The more you use it, the stronger it will become. Don't let it paralyze you as you learn, let it propel you into something new and exciting. By doing so, it will connect your relationship, take it to new heights, and provide one hell of a good time. The sex that transpires will be unlike anything you've known, especially is seduction has been lost for a while.
All it takes is a little time, creativity, and energy. In the end, the results will be mutually gratifying, inspiring, connecting and not to mention, overwhelmingly HOT.
So, take our advice. Learn a little bit more about how to use seduction in your relationship. OTN features our best tips and tricks in Erotism.
All you need to do is check out some light reading, and then you'll be on your way to getting exactly what you desire.
You’re welcome.