Be honest … Is anything about you seductive?
What makes someone seductive? Is the art of seduction something you are born with, or can anyone learn how to be seductive? Or does one need to have a certain personality to seduce? And the biggest question you’re probably asking yourself right now is, “Am I seductive?”
Granted, there are some people who inherit the seductive traits at a young age but that does not mean that others can’t acquire the ability to be a seductive person. While it does help to have a gorgeous body, long slim legs, and sexy eyes, there are many other features that play a role in seduction. Surprisingly, while it’s important to know your body, seduction has more to do with the mind than the body.
The art of seduction is far removed from crotchless lingerie and super-sized breasts; seduction is primarily focused on making the other person feel as though he/she has your undivided attention and interest, and once you have acquired this attention, you make your moves.
Seductive qualities include many senses including your eyes, the way you touch, your voice, the way you dress, the way you walk, and how you interact non-verbally. During seduction, the focus is on the other person and if you use all your senses appropriately, you will be the center of attention and have the ability to seduce almost anyone.
For some people seduction comes naturally- it is perhaps in the genes, but for the majority, it is an acquired art form that requires effort and awareness. Seduction is not acquired by reading a book or watching videos- with just a few tweaks in your lifestyle you can capture the initial aesthetics, including dressing to kill, walking sexily, looking gorgeous, smelling great, knowing when to touch and how to use your eyes for communication. When you know your body, you can utilize seduction through body language to create excitement in your significant other. You can quickly turn into a sexual Casanova or a model seductress, like Cleopatra.
How seductive are you?
Now back to that thought in your head … “Am I seductive?” Well, when you seduce someone, you will know by the response you get - the other person will provide verbal and/or non-verbal cues. For example, as a female at a club, after you act coy and gently brush up against an attractive male, trying to get him to pay attention, he may lock eyes with you in a suggestive and sexy manner. At the same time, you will develop sexual energy that will exhilarate, excite and arouse; chemicals in your brain will immediately let you know that you have hit the right spot in the other person’s heart and brain. The important thing is to keep your confidence high when trying to seduce someone; confidence will allow you to express yourself freely without feeling insecure. Seduction is not a one-way street - during seduction you may make the other person feel elated, happy, attractive and sexy; you will also have an overpowering feeling of first time excitement as you make eye contact and start thinking about getting naughty in bed, receiving affection and fulfilling erotic desires - this combination is enriching and satisfying for both partners.
The key to seduction is to tease the person until he cannot wait anymore. Start flirting with your partner but do not give in quickly to sex. For example, surprise your partner in the morning by caressing his/her body and genitals but do not have sex. Keep him/her aroused and then jump in the shower and go to work. When a female does this, her man will be thinking about it all day and will be dying to have sex with her when he gets home. Then when you go out for dinner, caress your partner in a sexy way and let his/her mind run wild. These gestures are what makes someone seductive. It allows you to explore a kind of expression that feeds your physical and mental health, especially when used with the right person.
Am I seductive? Learn the signs.
Some of the signs that may suggest that you are seductive include the following (for females):
You walk into the office wearing jeans, a tight t-shirt, and high heels, and you will quickly sense that everyone is ogling at you even though you have not said a word. And some of the staff may even compliment that you look dead gorgeous. It is clear you have high self-esteem and you are portraying the sexiest version of yourself.
When you are at a party or even at the office, you quickly notice that the guy you smiled at when you first arrived is lustfully looking and admiring your body. And he has that sexy smile that says ‘i want you' - at this point, you have just seduced the individual.
You go to a party wearing a sexy black dress and are surrounded by drunk men who want to do everything for you. In general, drunk men often are frank and tell the truth; if they say you’re beautiful, or have a hot body, or look dynamite – these are honest opinions that hold.
Often the eyes reveal a romantic interest. Sometimes you may notice how a member of the opposite sex looks and follows every move you make; the eyes reveal the profound interest in you, and you should take it as a hint that you are turning someone on.
Sometimes you may be speaking on the phone to a colleague or even a stranger and later receive a compliment that your voice sounded very soothing and seductive. Both men and women often use a certain tone in their voices to seduce others.
You are at a conference and notice an attractive male sitting nearby. He notices the way you are looking. On the way out, he passes you a note with his name and contact number. In this quick moment, you have identified what makes someone seductive and are able to use it to your advantage in a matter of seconds.
Seduction should be done in a way that makes the partner feel extremely excited but at the same time, you should make him wait, as this will create more lust and excitement. But there is a fine line between keeping one on the sexual edge and continued teasing; if you wait too long, he may lose interest.
Seducing is much more than flirting; the former offers allure, assurance, and affection. Flirting can be done with anyone or many people, but the art of seduction is targeted to one person with the goal of developing a romantic relationship, even a true love. With flirting, sex may not be involved, but with seduction, you know your body (even your eyes and lips) and you know how to use it – so the ultimate endgame is having hot, passionate sex.
Finally, always maintain your independence.
Seduction can be time-consuming and requires effort. You do not want to give away everything about yourself and appear vulnerable - you should save time for seduction and time for yourself. The key is to keep the mystery alive with your significant other. At the end of the day, if you have been seductive, both of you will long for each other for decades to come.
So, next time you ask yourself, “Am I seductive?” - remember the signs reviewed here. Then determine if you’re taking the steps toward understanding what makes someone seductive and how to apply the principles.