What can you get with the right body language?
Communication can be done both verbally and nonverbally. Nonverbal communication such as hand gestures, body postures, facial and eye expressions are often used to convey a message to others during both formal and informal communications. In your sex life, body language controls or influences almost every sexual invitation.
Body language can be the doorway to passion or one hell of a fight. By reading body language, you can quickly decipher what your partner is trying to say, and this silent means of communication can send powerful messages. For example, when you scan the internet, it is very obvious that celebrities communicate with body movements. We see them shake hands, stand close to each other, and even utilize direct eye contact to command the room. Conversely, sometimes we see negative body language such as crossed arms or heads turned opposite directions. As viewers, we can read into the messages being transmitted, and it speaks volumes when love and affection are involved.
When thinking of intimate relationships, body language does much more than let us know if our partner is upset. It commands attention and dictates intimacy, whether it's sexual or mental. Every motion you make during a conversation, sets the tone and lets you express yourself without ever speaking. There is a connection that is developed between couples that allows us to have have more than just a sexual encounter. This bond actually elevates us to a higher level with each other. It allows for a unique connection in the bedroom that provides increased sexual pleasure and communication regarding your wants and needs. Sometimes the sexual things you may be uncertain about expressing, are already displayed through body language. This means, with the right body language you can get absolutely anything you desire.
So, it's probably time to start using that to your advantage.
How to use body language in a committed relationship
To build a solid relationship coupled with respect and emotional connection, focus on understanding body language from your partner. Your natural reactions are shown in your mannerisms and can help your partner interpret your true feelings in any situation. As mentioned, understanding and developing various types of nonverbal communication can help create a strong bond in your relationship. Every physical action has an influence or meaning, and it can say – I'm down for any sex position tonight, OR, it can say – I'd prefer you not touch me. If your arms are crossed or your hands are fidgeting, your partner may step back from approaching you. But if your smile is bright and you're touching each other, the message is very different. You’d be surprised how often the wrong nonverbal cues ruin a great night. Adversely, the right body language can result in ultimate seduction, constant orgasms, and hours of hot sex. If you're struggling with your sexual connection, you may want to ask yourself … What does my body language say?
First, you want to create a solid foundation for sex, and that’s closeness. Hot sex doesn’t happen without a strong connection.
Start here ….
Touch your partner often, caress parts of his/her body, and find excuses to always touch. This is usually a sign of emotional closeness, and your partner will feel the passion being transmitted. Touch also tells your partner that you're interested, which continues to build self-confidence and confidence/comfort in the relationship. I'm sure you've heard that a hug can stop any fight. There's just something about touching that allows you to let your guard down and be vulnerable. When touch is reciprocated, as with a hug, both of you are showing that your hearts are open, and you want to connect. This is actually what brings those steamy nights to life. It starts here. If you don't touch, and touch often, forget about the middle of the night blow job or the intense orgasm. You'll just be at a dead end.
When the opportunity arises, make seductive eye contact. Eye movement can be powerful, and if done right, will reflect emotional intensity. All facial expressions play role in effective communication skills with your partner, so be aware of your face and how it reads to others. When it comes to a person's body language, facial expressions often take the place of your tone of voice. Offering a genuine smile or a fake smile tells your partner a lot in that moment, it's an expression of interest and disinterest. And don't forget about eye contact during sex. Many couples are shy about their orgasms. Don't be. Your partner loves watching you enjoy sex. Use eye contact during sexual intercourse, but also during oral sex. For women, eye movement from your man's penis to his eyes is a great way to show him that you're turned on and you are connected to his every desire.
Leaning into each other while standing or sitting next to each other shows that you are interested in your partner's feelings and thoughts. In general, when you lean into your partner with your upper body, it reveals that you adore him or her. This is different than just leaning in to talk with a friend. This motion involves some seduction and touch, demonstrating that you want the closeness, and you want it to translate to great sex. If you're a man, this is when you slide your hand between her thighs. If you're a woman, this is when you flash your cleavage and make sure he notices.
A spontaneous kiss is one of the best nonverbal ways to say, 'i love you.' And remember, kisses don’t always have to be on the lips, or even the face. Kissing the palm of your partner’s hand, his/her neck, or the top of the shoulder, can be a great way to add a little of the unexpected to your kiss. Kissing is the epitome of closeness, but it's also a way to ignite instant passion and send a clear signal about your intentions. Get creative with where you kiss, how you kiss and the softness of your kiss. All of these aspects will tell your partner that you're looking for sexual pleasure.
Revealing your open palms. In general, when you're talking to your partner and opening both your arms towards him or her, it is a sign of honesty, openness, and trust. Think about making this a little dirty too. Maybe suck on your partner’s finger as he/she talks. Try things like kissing your partner's hand palm, then licking his/her finger and slowly sucking it. Then glide the wet finger over your chest. These subtle seductions in your body language will send vibrant sexual signals that your partner won't miss.
Holding by the waist is another way to tell your partner that you care for him/her and are protective of his/her being. Make it a point to walk holding each other close. Try spicing this up a little too. Don't be afraid to squeeze her butt cheek in public as you're reaching your arm around her. And ladies, don't be afraid to press up against him, letting your breasts graze his arm. The closer you stay through your activities; the easier sex will come. And not just any sex, the killer sex you've been dreaming about.
All of this is just a starting point though. You’ll definitely want to level up to get the type of sex your relationship is lacking. Often, it’s important to combine different types of body language actions to showcase your desire for sex. Try our suggestions below:
If you’re a female, think about the way you walk. Swaying your hips with a dress that hugs your curves, presents certainty to your partner that you’re interested in more than just a peck on the cheek. It's also a surefire way to increase a man's heart rate and give him visual stimulation. Every step should be executed flawlessly, and every piece of clothing you wear around your man should show that you're craving him. As you give him more to look at and enjoy, you're certain to get exactly what you want.
What about how you’re sitting? For men and women, how you sit says a lot. Are your legs open or closed? For women, cross your legs toward your man, not away from him. Or leave your legs open just a bit, so your man can slide his hand in between as he caresses your leg. For men, open your legs and signal to your partner to sit between your legs. Whether you’re on the floor, on the couch, or snuggling on bars stools, this position is an instant signal to sex. Also, for women, sitting on your man's lap is a great way to get sexual attention. It requires close touching and close touching in all the right areas to light that spark.
We’re also big fans of love taps. Whether it’s a light spank on the butt or a quick squeeze of his bicep, these love taps are easy and fun to do anytime. Do it in public and don't worry what anyone thinks. These are the things that keep us sexually interested and excited. Love touches are fantastic for women to use when wanting to get instant results. For example, a quick touch to your man's penis while he's fully clothed, will have a prompt reaction. This is a great form of nonverbal communication that reminds your partner, you're in the game.
Midday oral sex anyone? Oral sex is advanced body language at its finest. When performed in the middle of the day, it's a great way to set the tone for after hours. Spontaneous use of oral sex keeps both of you interested and turned on throughout the day. Its message is loud and clear, and truly welcomed.
As the relationship evolves, nonverbal signals can change over time. Your initial body language postures and gestures may have been unnatural and uncomfortable early in your relationship. But now you’re in a long-term, committed relationship that has made your body language more instinctive and hopefully, more effective. It’s not just about the lead-up to sex, it’s also about communicating the type of love you want in your relationship.
Learning how to utilize body language creates sparks that will lead to a sexual connection – and not just any connection … the hot sex type of connection.
Reading body language
In order to increase the sexual chemistry between couples, you need to decode the body language. Many women are shy to verbally say what they want in the bedroom and will often use subtle body language to reveal their wild sexual thoughts. That said, understanding body language is crucial to having the sex life you desire. For men struggling to understand, here are some body language signs that should tell you exactly what she wants.
Example: She acts coy, shy and stands with her hands to the front. This is a sign indicating that she wants you to take it slowly. Do not rush to undress her, instead play the mating game first. She is trying to build up the sexual tension with these motions and you should start to relax her by only touching the non-sexual parts of her body first. Move slowly and let her enjoy every touch and stimulation. You will also enjoy watching her get this pleasure. Tease her and learn what she wants and how she likes it. When you unlock this intimacy, it will be the gateway to everything wild. And remember, just because she seems shy, or even is a bit more reserved, it doesn't mean that she doesn't possess wild sexual desires.
Example: She looks deeply into your eyes: When she looks deeply into your eyes, this is an indication of being submissive. Eye contact signals either submission (female) or dominance (male). If she is lustfully staring at her man, it is up to him to make the move and take the initiative. Playing with submissive and dominant roles in your relationship leads to a very active sex life with experimental sexual play; the right path for getting where you want to be.
Example: She crosses her hands above her head while in bed. This is a sign that she is offering her body to you. More importantly, she wants to be dominated by you and is open to bondage. When a female places her hands above her head while in bed, she is giving you access to her sexual being and the rest of the body. This exhibits a true feeling of trust and interest in exploring new sexual territories. No verbal message is needed. This says, 'take me' and do it now.
Example: She nibbles on your neck. When the female gives you bite marks, this is a sign that she wants to play a little rough. Anything from spanking to hair pulling, to BDSM. A little bit of pain can lead to mind-blowing orgasms. This is also a great opportunity to get a little playful with your experiences. Tease and taunt to make the encounter memorable and fun. Then take it up a notch or two and test each other's tolerance for rougher play. This will increase your sexual time together and allow you to meet the needs of the nonverbal behavior being displayed.
While there is no question that verbal expression is important in a relationship, nonverbal communication signals your true desires, and if done right, your chances of engaging in more and better sexual encounters will increase.
Nonverbal language plays an important role in relationships. The key is understanding body language, knowing how to interpret it and act accordingly. The best thing to do is just get started. Even if the body language isn’t perfect, the more you use it, the better it will be. Ultimately, you and your partner will know exactly what leads to the bedroom and how to get there faster.